In “Stone Soup” Barbara Kingsolver discusses family and divorce. The article makes the point that divorce is a failed marriage and that people who divorce take the lazy way out. It also talks about how everyone wants the perfect family, a household with a mother, father, sister, and brother, but in reality it’s hardly ever achieved because of the divorce rate and different types of marriages and single parenting. Kingsolver also talks about how some friends will stand by you during divorce, while others leave. The article says that the friends that stand by you and comfort you while you are still hurting eventually have to stop and start treating you like your old self again. Then the article goes on to talk about multigenerational families living together. Even through divorce, the family is still supportive for the kid’s sake and best interest. We can't grow up expecting the perfect life and marriage because the world and the people in it aren’t perfect. If we do believe in life being perfect, we’re in for a rude awakening.
This article has a lot to say and I agree with most of it. I agree that most children will grow up dreaming, at one point or another, of having a perfect family, but they hardly do ever get it. No family is perfect, but it’s still a family. I don’t agree when the article says that divorce is taking the easy way out because some things can't be helped. I think that if a couple fight and are extremely unhappy that they should get a divorce; it makes
no sense for a person to live their life unhappily married. A person’s life is mean to be full of joy, laughter and love. I also think it would be better for a child to see a divorce than to see his parents fighting on a daily basis. I think the effect would be a lot less negative on everyone involved it two unhappy people just got a divorce and gave up on trying to have the perfect family.
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A person’s life is mean to be full of joy, laughter and love I agree but you also have to teach your kids not to just opt out when they don’t want to do something regardless if its school, work, marriage, parenting, you cant just give on things that you made commitments to .
Your main point against this article, that "The article makes the point that divorce is a failed marriage and that people who divorce take the lazy way out." is completely false. Kingsolver states that she once believed that "everyone who does it could have chosen not to do it. That it's a lazy way out of marriage. That it selfishly puts personal happiness ahead of family integrity." Here Kingsolver is trying to relate to people who still hold those beliefs; she is not supporting them. She goes on to say, "Now I tremble for my ignorance." She is not promoting that divorce is a lazy way out of marriage, she is saying that such a claim is ridiculous. This is further proven when she later compares a non-functioning marriage as "a slow asphyxiation." And later still when she compares divorce to the removal of a gangrenous leg- something you do with great sacrifice because the alternative is death by infection. Just reading this article would have made it obvious that if Kingsolver is saying anything other than that we should no longer use the term "broken home", she is saying that divorce is in no means a lazy way out. There are many problems I have found with this essay, but your point is certainly not one of them. Also, your summary displays an obvious lack of understanding of the essay in its entirety-- thought you ought to know.
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